The No Stress, Money Saving "Collaborative Divorce"

What Is A Collaborative Divorce?

If you are headed for divorce or separation and would prefer to proceed in a non-adversarial manner, retain your dignity, sanity and your money then Collaborative Divorce is for you.

With a Collaborative Divorce YOU control the process not the Court. You can reach an agreement, through the assistance of a collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey, that is in accord with your family values and preserves both parties relationship with the children. Sometimes, even the relationship between each other after the Divorce can still be preserved to some extent. It gives you a long lasting, mutually agreeable and affordable resolution.

What Services Will Kathryn A. Gilbert Provide as My Collaborative Divorce Attorney in New Jersey?

As your Collaborative Divorce Attorney in New Jersey, I will assist you in setting forth your short and long term goals and will pay particular attention to the unique issues that your family faces. I have been in practice for more than 23 years specializing in family law. I will bring my expertise to the table to educate you and facilitate a more amicable parting. All meetings are private and confidential too, as opposed to traditional litigation where all documents are public records available to your children, nosy neighbors, gossip websites etc.


While involved in the Collaborative Divorce process you are still represented by your own Collaborative Divorce Attorney in New Jersey, yet the process is non-adversarial and less expensive than traditional litigation. You spend your time resolving the issues instead of paying your lawyer to sit around a courthouse waiting for your matter to be heard. After all, do you really want to spend your children's college tuition money and delay your retirement just so you can afford a high-priced lawyer to “beat up” on your spouse?



Hiring a Collaborative Divorce Attorney in New Jersey means less stress, less expense, happier children.

PROS & CONS OF A COLLABORATIVE DIVORCE

 

A D V A N T A G E S

It enables the divorcing couple, not a judge, to determine the terms of the divorce.

It encourages mutual respect.

It focuses on the needs of the children.

It keeps private information out of the public domain, unlike in a traditional divorce.

It usually costs less and takes less time than a traditional divorce.

 

D I S A D V A N T A G E S

It is not for everyone, particularly parties unwilling to negotiate.

If a settlement cannot be reached, the couple's attorneys are required to withdraw from the case, and the parties would need to hire new attorneys to bring their case to court.

How it Works:

First, both spouses meet with their respective collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey to discuss individual needs and concerns. Then, the couple and their attorneys meet in a series of four-way sessions to reach a settlement without involving the court. Every issue – including property division, parenting time allocation, and financial support – are discussed in these sessions. At times, on an as needed basis, other professionals including Mental Health Professionals and Financial Experts may become part of the “team” to assist couples in reaching amicable resolutions. Divorcing parties benefit from the skills, advice, and support of a collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey or other professionals experienced in the collaborative process. They are able to learn while striving to work things out in a positive, future-focused manner. When a settlement is reached, attorneys file the appropriate paperwork required by the court, and the divorce is then finalized on an uncontested basis.

Frequently Asked Questions:

What makes the collaborative approach work?


It establishes a team approach instead of an adversarial one. Your collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey supports you; just as your spouse's lawyer supports your spouse. But you all work together in formulating resolutions to your marital difficulties and, in doing so, retain control of the process. Nothing gets resolved in a collaborative divorce unless you agree to it.

In matters requiring expert opinions, both parties can jointly hire one independent consultant. That helps shorten the duration of the case and reduce the overall expense.

You and your spouse shape the agreements together -- which means you both are more likely to abide by them in the future. Such an arrangement diminishes the parental conflict the adversarial litigation system tends to generate, and helps protect children from facing the anguish and divided loyalties that result from going to "war".

You can schedule meetings with all parties without waiting for court dates. That means you generally spend less time and, as a result, less money to achieve your goals of emotional and financial closure. It also means you eliminate the fear and anxiety associated with court proceedings.

Your issues stay within the collaborative law setting. That gives you more privacy and greater confidentiality -- and less stress during an already stressful time.

Collaborative family law focuses on all involved parties reaching a mutually agreed upon settlement of their disputes. The process results in valuable benefits, such as, the ability to continue to communicate with your spouse for the benefit of the children at the conclusion of your divorce.

It creates a cooperative environment where communication remains open, which provides a setting where you can work with your spouse to meet your children's needs -- regardless of their ages. That helps set a tone for open communication and reduced conflict in the future.

Why Must a Collaborative Divorce Attorney in New Jersey Resign If the Other Side Decides to Go to Court?

The requirement that all lawyers be disqualified in the event of a breakdown guarantees that all participating counsel and the litigants will be totally motivated and committed to ensure that the process is successful. Thus, all participants are equally devoted to crafting the solutions to all of the outstanding issues. The manner in which the negotiation process takes place is positively affected by the certainty that lawyers will never litigate the case. Openness, candor, and cooperation replace guardedness, secrecy, and threats as the techniques most likely to achieve ultimate success. Walking out in anger, or provoking the other side to, ceases to be a viable tactic when you choose this route. Make sure to hire Kathryn A. Gilbert as your Bergen County Lawyer should you need a collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey.

How Is Collaborative Law Different From Mediation?

Mediation involves the use of a neutral third party in facilitating the negotiation and settlement of a dispute between the parties. Parties retain the option of walking out of mediation and proceeding to litigate with their current attorneys. In collaborative law cases, lawyers and their clients will talk and negotiate with or without the assistance of a third party neutral, unless they find such an intervention would be useful. In mediation, the neutral cannot be an advocate for one party over another, or propose a possible outcome if the case is litigated. In a collaborative law case the attorneys are committed to continuing a productive dialog until such time as satisfactory solution is reached since litigation involving the parties is not an option.

What If, Sometime after Entering into a Settlement as a Result of a Collaborative Law Process, a Collaborative Lawyer Discovers That the Other Party Failed to Disclose Information That Should Have Been Disclosed? 

In this respect, a settlement agreement reached via a collaborative law process is no different from any other negotiated settlement agreement by a Hackensack attorney, Bergen County lawyer, or any other collaborative divorce attorney in New Jersey, and the former is no more or less susceptible to being challenged for such a reason than the latter. For any settlement agreement reached during the collaborative law process, the attorneys and the parties should recite the material facts upon which the settlement is based.

What if the Settlement is Not Achieved Cooperatively?

In the event the parties are unable to arrive at a settlement through the Collaborative Law Process, the lawyers withdraw from the case and the parties are free to retain trial attorneys to pursue their matter in court. The result is that the parties will have the best representation for each phase of the proceeding, and probably save time spent in a subsequent, costlier trial. Much of what you have done can be continued by a new attorney so all is still not lost if you must go this route.

 

For more information on Collaborative Divorce go to

www.collaborativepractice.com or www.Njcollaborativelaw.com